I agree, it's not quite obvious.
Let me try to explain.
The anti roll bar does not trafer *load* from the outer wheel (under load) to the inner. In fact it does the opposite - it will try to lift the inner wheel off the ground, fighting against the spring and shock on that side. Of course, the spring is much stronger, so it will still manage to keep the wheel against the ground, but the force is actually reduced.
This reduces the chassis' tendency to roll at that end, but with properly designed suspension, roll is not a problem in itself. It's the shifting of the centre of gravity caused by roll which can cause problems.
However, the chassis will transfer the load to the inner rear wheel to the outer rear wheel, and THIS is why the front anti roll bar is a load transfer device from front to rear, and the rear anti roll bar is from the rear to the front.
As for driving, keeping the car in balance is what drivers say is important. Think of it this way: You are essentially driving a shopping cart. Try turning it around a corner and it will initially resist your turning force. But once it is in motion, it will try to keep on rotating.
A car is the same: After you get off the brakes and start turning, initially the car will fight against your steering. But once you get it rotating, it will try to keep the rate of rotation. Hopefully, by the time you are over the apex, you are going slow enough to have enough grip to get the car pointing forwards again, and by the way, you'll be shifting the COG backwards as soon as you get back on the throttle. With the rear weight bias of the mid engined car, the COG will be closer to the heaviest point of the car, so the rotatinbg inertia of the car will be reduced, making it easier for you to get out of the corner. If you have enough power, that is. But you have
I hope this explains a bit of the dynamics going on in your car while you're taking it through the corners, but as a race car engineering book I once enjoyed reading said at the beginning of each chapter: It's just not that simple!
/Anders